I think dealing with other people's reactions must be incredibly difficult - I would be defensive and overly sensitive, too. Because, you know, you love your kids and you want everyone else to see how wonderful they are, and you feel protective towards them and it hurts like hell when other people look at them askance. When I was pregnant with my older daughter we had a little bit of a scare about Down's syndrome, and decided to have further tests but not an abortion, and the doctor said "Why do you want to have the tests if you're not going to act on the results?" And the answer was because if the baby was going to be handicapped we wanted to be able to write to all our friends and say "Look, we know the baby will have Down's, but we still love her and we want you to be happy for us when she's born." It turned out that everything was all right, but it really brought home to me how heavily other people's reactions weigh on you.